This morning, I stumbled upon One Direction’s newest music video featuring their hit new single, “Live While We’re Young”. Now, my 13-year old step-sister is a huge fan so I thought I’d check it out. I was immediately hit by an extremely catchy beat and pop melody. Can someone say this Fall’s big hit? But as I watched these 5 boys (yes, ladies, they are not men, so stop fawning. Unless, of course, you’re below the age of 17.) sing and dance on this video, I started listening to the lyrics and was honestly appalled at what I heard:
“Let’s go crazy crazy crazy
till we see the sun
I know we only met but let’s pretend it’s love
And never never never stop for anyone
Tonight let’s get some
And live while we’re young”
First things first. Ladies, this is NOT love. True love and healthy relationships are built on trust, commitment, and mutual understanding. You’re 14. You don’t know what love is. So if a boy is telling you to “pretend” y’all are in love, RUN AWAY. Don’t look back. Or better yet, slap him. And by “get some”, I hope the boys of 1D mean getting some ice-cream from the local Ben & Jerry’s. If that were the case then “live while we’re young” would be less appalling.
This generation is all about YOLO and living it up before you get old (or have to take on some actual responsibilities). For wanting to avoid as much responsibility as possible, kids these days are participating in activities that require A LOT of exactly that. Alcohol and sex, while fun, are not games. And sex is definitely not something you want to do with just anyone. It is a sacred thing and should be handled with care. You may only live once but each time you “lose it” you lose part of your heart. Do you want some guy who is “pretending” to love you to take that away from you? God created sex to be a sacred act between a woman and her husband. Don’t go handing it out like you’re advertising.
Hey girl it’s now or never
It’s now or never
Don’t over think, just let it go
And if we get together
Yea get together
Don’t let the pictures leave your phone
…yeah. You better not let those pictures leave your phone because in all 50 states, those pictures are considered child pornography. And what is a guy doing taking pictures anyways? Ladies, if a guy EVER degrades you by taking pictures of what I think they’re singing about, he is not respecting you. And no. It’s not “now or never”. If he is serious about you he’ll make that “never” a “FOREVER”. The emotions you feel in the moment are hormones and should not be what you base your relationship on. So think about it. OVERthink about it if you have to. I’d rather you overthink that situation than jump in the sheets with some kid you just met at a random camping trip beach party bonanza (Which is what I’m assuming they’re doing in this video).
Hey girl I’m waiting on ya
I’m waiting on ya
Come on let me sneak you out
And have a celebration a celebration
The music up the windows down
Let me make this simple for you: DON’T let this man-boy rush you. Don’t let ANY man OR boy rush you. Take your time to evaluate your feelings, your thoughts, your boundaries, and, most of all, his character. Any relationship that you have to hide from your family or friends and have to sneak out to have is not a relationship worth keeping. Call me “old school”, but you want a guy who will shake your dad’s hand on the front step of your porch, not one who rips his pants while climbing out your bedroom window.
Woman was God’s final creation. The cherry on top. You are a treasure and deserve to be treated as such. So don’t let this catchy song fool you. True, you are young and free but that also means you have your whole life to regret the decisions you make. True love is worth the wait.