Things I Thought Happened When You Graduated

  1. You get engaged. I remember thinking in high school that everyone met their spouses in college. And though one of my friends gets engaged at least once a week, I know so many single college seniors, myself included. And on top of that, I couldn’t imagine being engaged, let alone married at this time in my life. I don’t even have a full-time job laid out yet!
  2. You will automatically get a job. Speaking of full-time jobs…. I always thought that college seniors automatically had a job lined up for them upon graduation. But alas, that was pre-2008, when I didn’t know that a  “double-dip recession” even existed. Now, having a job already is pretty rare and those lucky enough to have one are considered blessed. Not only are we fighting all the other graduating seniors across the country for a job, we’re also fighting the thousands of middle-aged people with years of experience under their belt. Thank God for the social media/technology revolution that gave all us millennials a leg up on the competition! For some of y’all, getting a job is the least of your worries. You still have no idea what you want to do. Though I decided I wanted to be in real estate at the end of my sophomore year, I didn’t decide on what exactly in real estate I wanted to do until December. I always thought that everyone knew what they wanted to do when they were handed their diploma. Once across that stage they would be whisked into some cubicle where they would work until they retired. Turns out, our generation is more likely to change jobs continuously than any other previous generation. Apparently, we get bored, ha.
  3. Life would be always be exciting. I guess I’ve been imagining my college graduation and life thereafter for so long that I’ve created rather high expectations for myself. I thought getting a full-time job would be exciting, and yes, I will be completely stoked to sign a contract with a company, but excitement fades after a while. You get used to the ebb and flow of life, your routine and such, that everything becomes ordinary. Just how college was no longer a big deal after your freshman year. You just get used to things. That’s why people get hobbies and read more when they get older. They need to something to do, which is exciting in its own way. I have so many books I want to read (or re-read) and hobbies I want to take up (I really want to start gardening and baking…)!
  4. Life is not just a series of Important Events. I tend to think of my future as a chapter book: Birth, Sweet 16, High School Graduation, 21st Birthday, College Graduation, Marriage, Motherhood, Retirement, Grand-motherhood, Death. But what I’ve found is the best parts of life aren’t necessarily the “big moments” (though the birth of my first born will be quite amazing) but the little ones in between. And they’re not always the best of times but the worst of times that really matter. They make us who we are. The hard times allow us to appreciate the good times even more.

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