As many of y’all know, Joe and I had chosen to save our first kiss until our wedding day. And I’m sure y’all are wondering: now that we’re married, do I think it was worth it? Do I regret saving our first kiss until we were in front of 200 people?
Not at all.
I wouldn’t change a thing about the physical boundaries Joe and I set in place. They protected us and kept us pure, making our ‘first kiss’ a treasure and a gift. It wasn’t something we took for granted. When Joe kissed me in that chapel, he knew that kiss symbolized a choice. A commitment. A commitment to be with me and only me for the rest of our lives. And when I kissed Joe in front of all our friends and loved ones, I knew I was choosing to love this man for the rest of my life, till death do us part.
Saving our first kiss didn’t ruin anything for us. When we made the choice not to kiss while dating, we did it because we knew kissing wouldn’t prove our compatibility or our love. In fact, for us, staying together despite our lack of physical affection was a truer test. Ultimately, love will forever be an action and a choice. We will choose to love each other every day of our lives. 1 John 4:19 says, “We love because He first loved us”. This verse is the mission statement of our marriage and is inscribed on our wedding bands. We forever want to choose each other. Regardless of how annoyed we are, angry we are, or hurt we are. Even if we can’t stand to be in the same room together, we will choose to love and we will choose to stay because Jesus did. He chose to stay in unbearable pain, enduring the most humiliating and painful death one can imagine, for the opportunity for all of us to be truly and deeply loved. I pray we love each other as Jesus loves us, ultimately bringing glory to His name.
So to kiss or not to kiss? That answer is up to you.